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DIVORCE
« on: August 15, 2008, 11:10:02 PM »
Let's face it.... just over 40% of marriages end in divorce, and in the church the rate is not much lower.

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Re: DIVORCE
« Reply #1 on: August 29, 2008, 02:45:27 PM »
Many people...
especially young couples, marry for the wrong reasons..
hence, rampant divorce in our societies, it's no more a sacred thing, drop out when tired!
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Re: DIVORCE
« Reply #2 on: August 29, 2008, 03:00:28 PM »
My own personal view,
women empowerement is also partly the cause of the increase in divorce, many women are now the family bread winners and no longer respect there husband and partners.

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« Reply #3 on: August 29, 2008, 03:06:39 PM »
Are u trying to say women empowerment has gotten into the heads of some wives?
There is vast difference between teaching someone to be strong and teaching to take revenge or disrespect!  We are only taught to apply the right rules at the right time, not to feel intimidated.

Me thinks pple marry for the wrong reasons, if a woman think she has some power... i don't think she needs to marry and excercise tha on the husband.... too bad!
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Re: DIVORCE
« Reply #4 on: August 30, 2008, 11:18:02 AM »
Even if people do marry for the right reason, divorce is still bound to happen because love is like a flower that falls off at the end of each season.

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Re: DIVORCE
« Reply #5 on: August 30, 2008, 12:12:35 PM »
Love?
I don't think that love they bubble about exist...
I believe in maturity, faithfulness/honesty, understanding, common goal and interest...

two people can do partnership business and make it blossom--- no emotional feelings attached, just professionalism, determination and common .

and i think same way can work with marriage... in the end--- 'that love' may be given birth to.
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« Reply #6 on: August 30, 2008, 04:30:51 PM »
Do you know that according to experts research that the highest cause of divorce is not about cheating and infidelity but "money related" issues.

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Re: DIVORCE
« Reply #7 on: August 31, 2008, 01:37:18 AM »
My own personal view,
women empowerement is also partly the cause of the increase in divorce, many women are now the family bread winners and no longer respect there husband and partners.

I agree with you a bit Prince.  Some women just don't understand men need respect.  Some men have a hard time if the woman earns more than he does.  There is an awesome book called Love & Respect, it's taught as a marriage class too.
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« Reply #8 on: August 31, 2008, 06:42:11 AM »
For centuries, men have been the natural bread winners, and some women see it as a revenge time rather keep loving there partners the same way before the change in earning.

That's when some will be nagging every morning, that if not her this or that.

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Re: DIVORCE
« Reply #9 on: September 01, 2008, 08:47:42 AM »
This is becoming a gender-biased thing...
am out!
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Re: DIVORCE
« Reply #10 on: September 01, 2008, 11:59:22 AM »
I agree with u Prince, it was b4 that a man take 100% responsibilities of home and pick all the bills but nowadays, it's divided or rations 60:40 or 50:50, but irrespective of this I dont see any reason why a woman shouldn't respect her man. But at times, when a woman is solemnly responsible for the upkeep of the family and at the end of the whole thing she still get beaten by the guy f what importance is marriage?
I dont agree with divorcement myself, it's not a good idea and cos of the kids, but at times it is needed when couples are no longer in love and they fight everyday in the presence of their children, D-A-M-N, two pple are able to stay 2geda under the same roof cos they care abt each other and it they fall out of love what else, no need being traumatic and sad, it's better they keep out of each other's way.
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Re: DIVORCE
« Reply #11 on: September 01, 2008, 12:52:26 PM »
You don't agree on what point?

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« Reply #12 on: September 01, 2008, 03:17:54 PM »
You don't agree on what point?
Sorry i meant to say  agree wit ur points, it's not easy leaving what a man suppose to do to ladies, even whatever respect is being given b4 , definately wil reduce.
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Re: DIVORCE
« Reply #13 on: September 01, 2008, 03:23:30 PM »
As you mention in your post, time have change, we're now in the mordern days, gone are the time when a man have to do all the spending alone.
Maybe in Africa, but not here.

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Re: DIVORCE
« Reply #14 on: December 06, 2008, 10:19:30 PM »
but do u think that it's necessary to patch loveless marriage? One thing i believe is that couple should love and respect themselves and not to tolerate, id love and respect is out then what's the next thing? Divorcement bill :-\ :-\
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Re: DIVORCE
« Reply #15 on: December 07, 2008, 06:57:52 AM »
Divorce remain the opposite of marriage. A divorce is better than a forcing marriage.

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« Reply #16 on: December 07, 2008, 12:12:09 PM »
Divorce remain the opposite of marriage. A divorce is better than a forcing marriage.

I think ure right but here in Nigeria, couples tend to patch the marriage, all because they dont really know what society would say, some funny excuses.. I tolerated and was patient that's why am still in ur father's house.. mum tells the woman, some womenwill even tell u am just there to secure my kids' place cos it's in their fathers .. but don't u think that they've (kids) got their lives and u have urs... another thing, when marriage is loveless and that passion is out of it, they just cant tolerate themselves again, so better divorce or seperate and think about what they really need
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Re: DIVORCE
« Reply #17 on: December 15, 2008, 02:41:23 AM »
I know y'all may not be able to get every American film, but if you find "Fireproof", (it's still in theaters here) get it and watch it, it's about not giving up on a marriage and how God can restore.  There is a book that the main character, Kirk Cameron, is given that is also available, it's called "The Love Dare".  I bought 2 copies right before I went to Africa and gave my sweetheart a copy of it.  We are reading through it together and even though we are newly married it has already opened some doors of communication and understanding.
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Re: DIVORCE
« Reply #18 on: December 15, 2008, 07:09:21 PM »
That book must be good, but i don't need books, i prefer using my instints.

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Re: DIVORCE
« Reply #19 on: December 15, 2008, 09:28:32 PM »
That book must be good, but i don't need books, i prefer using my instints.

But Prince, men and women think differently and sometimes when you think you are showing love and appreciation she doesn't take it that way at all and vice versa.
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Re: DIVORCE
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