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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #25 on: April 25, 2008, 04:19:31 PM »


i am yet to take a course
in translation...

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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #26 on: April 25, 2008, 05:34:46 PM »

off topic!
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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #27 on: April 25, 2008, 05:46:27 PM »


yes ma!
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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #28 on: April 25, 2008, 11:53:23 PM »

Hmmm Babyosisi good to have u on this worthy forum,
welcome my dear,
Ur 2kobos here's well received and educative
Thanks jare

Thanks for the warm welcome.
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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #29 on: April 26, 2008, 01:14:13 PM »
osisi i think i know you from somewhere,anyway welcome here.

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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #30 on: April 26, 2008, 01:49:33 PM »
osisi i think i know you from somewhere,anyway welcome here.
From where, KOREA or NIGER ?
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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #31 on: April 26, 2008, 03:15:05 PM »
another forum

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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #32 on: April 28, 2008, 03:39:33 PM »
I post on Seun's site that could be it
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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #33 on: April 28, 2008, 03:49:31 PM »
I was born and grew up mainly amongst Igbos so naturally most of my suitors were Igbos.
I had a few Yoruba suitors,infact my first 2 boyfriends were Yorubas and they were great guys.
I think people should go with whoever is a great mate,have the same ideals with them and above all Gods' will for them irrespective of race.
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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #34 on: April 28, 2008, 06:56:57 PM »
@osisi yes i think that might be the place,welcome here

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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #35 on: April 28, 2008, 07:09:28 PM »


+osisi...i concur with you...

come to think of it:
generally speaking which
will you consider more advantageous:

inter- or intra-tribal marriage?
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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #36 on: May 01, 2008, 02:16:18 PM »


+osisi...i concur with you...

come to think of it:
generally speaking which
will you consider more advantageous:

inter- or intra-tribal marriage?

beibee help a sister out...which one is inter tribal o?  ???
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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #37 on: May 04, 2008, 03:02:30 PM »
+osisi,
great to have you around. I knew you at koboland but had no chance to get closer. Welcome to a forum where respect is the middlename.

@topic,
it is indeed a very sensitive issue. Not to us, but to our parents who had stereotyped other tribes and had vowed to resist their ward from venturing into inter-tribal union. Osisi was right. But, I am of view that the day of the stereotype are numbered. Our generation seem to be crossing the barrier. Only the courageous get through. It can be tough!
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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #38 on: May 04, 2008, 05:36:27 PM »
Osisi said it very well.Ma peeps language is no barrier nothing!It is the feelings that count.Am from Cross river,married to Yoruba,my siblings are married to Ibo,Delta,Birom(Plateau),and so and so forth.If we were to all come together  with our spouses we can represent every part of Nigeria.I guess our parents may not be exactly thrilled,but we all learnt to seek our own happiness long ago!
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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #39 on: May 04, 2008, 06:06:27 PM »
Abu, Let's share ur experience...
how has it been when u have full house ?
xpecially in language &  choice of food.
Are ur spouses celebrated or are they tolerated .
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« Reply #40 on: May 04, 2008, 06:14:45 PM »
Hahaha.When ma people are around(rarely),they speak  vernacular and I respond in English.When ma inlaws are around(almost all the time),they speak Yoruba.You learn to tolerate your inlaws with time,and for me their vists have become a blessing(when am not at home!)-at least my wife is not alone with the kids.When am around-I use them as much as possible for my chores!
The best thing is to learn to look for the positivies in any aspect of life than to focus on negatives-you give yourself a headache for nothing.
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« Reply #41 on: May 04, 2008, 06:26:49 PM »
Its a nice experience though uneasy task.
Do u encourage inter-tribal marriage, then?
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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #42 on: May 04, 2008, 06:34:31 PM »
Is not where you come from that matters but who you have in your life that counts.I support marriage btw two people who love themselves,no matter their tribe.

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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #43 on: May 04, 2008, 06:40:01 PM »
judy, i concur with u.
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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #44 on: May 04, 2008, 06:43:25 PM »
Once again Judy you have said the right thing in the right way, with the right words.It is the feelings between the two that counts,and not where they come from.
Yes Kenden,I support inter and intra tribal,inter racial and inter-whatever marriages as long as the couple are taking an informed,educated and un pressured decision.
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« Reply #45 on: May 04, 2008, 06:49:03 PM »
The thing about marriage is that after the wedding those people who want you to marry from your own tribe will not be there when you start to have problems.You have misunderstanding with your blood relations how much more an outsider.In the long run follow your heart,and face whatever comes in future.

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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #46 on: May 04, 2008, 07:47:50 PM »
Judy2,
that is exact thing I told my gal before we parted. It was painful, but I just had to let her parent's wish be.
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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #47 on: May 06, 2008, 04:53:18 AM »
Yes,better to make the decision whom to marry yourself than succumb to parental pressure,but be prepared to face the consequences of that choice as well.
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« Reply #48 on: May 06, 2008, 10:22:28 AM »


sister peacetee...

inter-tribal is outside your tribe
intra-tribal is within your tribe...

olanajim...so so sorry about your experience
but i wonder why she couldn't figure out
that earlier...
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« Reply #49 on: May 06, 2008, 06:03:56 PM »
Sometimes people just can't resist family pressure.No fault of theirs,it depends on up bringing and family inter relationship.
If the family advice is really for one's good-then one should listen-but if it is for some other silly reasons-then do your own thing.
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