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« on: April 21, 2008, 07:05:27 PM »
Seems like most people does not find it VERY easy to marry someone outside their tribes, even when young guys/babes fall in love and long to marry each other there is always this "NO" from either of their parents.

Why is it difficult for some Nigerians to marry from another tribe?
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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #1 on: April 21, 2008, 07:42:12 PM »
Nigeria tribalism problem, for me there's nothing wrong with marrying from other tribes.
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« Reply #2 on: April 21, 2008, 07:45:29 PM »
i would like to hear from others before i go further
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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #3 on: April 22, 2008, 04:00:21 AM »
it's ok but the language can be a problem sometime.
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« Reply #4 on: April 22, 2008, 09:20:46 AM »
some may quote language as a barrier, but apparently it may not be.
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« Reply #5 on: April 22, 2008, 04:59:01 PM »
some may quote language as a barrier, but apparently it may not be.
When we're born do we understand any language, so mentioning language is just looking for an excuse.

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« Reply #6 on: April 22, 2008, 11:52:46 PM »
it's not an excuse,that's the reality,bcos language is very important in a relationship.
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« Reply #7 on: April 23, 2008, 06:52:32 AM »
Language is important. What of the English?

From what I know of intertribal dating. I can say that the problem is not about language. It is selfishness brewed by tribal jingoism.
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« Reply #8 on: April 25, 2008, 01:48:47 AM »
The different tribes have all these evil pre-conceived stereotypes of other tribes and it's pretty hard to get past things you've heard since childhood.
We have all heard them.

Yorubas think Igbos are ritualists Igbos think Yorubas are juju spe...ts. :o
Igbo say Yorubas are dirty weaklings and untrustworthy,Yorubas say Igbos are greedy and cunning and would kill for money. :o
Igbos think Hausas are scum,Hausas think Igbos are crafty. :o
I've heard Calabar and Benue ladies are wayward. :o
These stereotypes started since God knows when are the  greatest hindrances in our moving forward. :'(

There's no  group of Nigerians that are immune from rituals,dirty living,419,ashewoness and any other ills.
We have to open our eyes to see that the world is made of two sets of people.
On one side we have the good guys and on the other the bad guys.
We should judge people as individuals not as a group. :)
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« Reply #9 on: April 25, 2008, 07:51:23 AM »
  ''We should judge people as individuals not as a group.''   OSISI HAS SAID IT ALL                                                         
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« Reply #10 on: April 25, 2008, 09:31:00 AM »
The different tribes have all these evil pre-conceived stereotypes of other tribes and it's pretty hard to get past things you've heard since childhood.
We have all heard them.

Yorubas think Igbos are ritualists Igbos think Yorubas are juju spe...ts. :o
Igbo say Yorubas are dirty weaklings and untrustworthy,Yorubas say Igbos are greedy and cunning and would kill for money. :o
Igbos think Hausas are scum,Hausas think Igbos are crafty. :o
I've heard Calabar and Benue ladies are wayward. :o
These stereotypes started since God knows when are the  greatest hindrances in our moving forward. :'(

There's no  group of Nigerians that are immune from rituals,dirty living,419,ashewoness and any other ills.
We have to open our eyes to see that the world is made of two sets of people.
On one side we have the good guys and on the other the bad guys.
We should judge people as individuals not as a group. :)

Hmmm Babyosisi good to have u on this worthy forum,
welcome my dear,
Ur 2kobos here's well received and educative
Thanks jare
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Re: INTER-TRIBAL MARRIAGE, HOW DO U SEE IT?
« Reply #11 on: April 25, 2008, 10:03:43 AM »

+osisi...you're welcome!

personally, i don't see nothing wrong in it.
be that as it may, we mustn't shy away
from the fact that it has its own peculiar
challenges...

every marriage has its own challenges too.
with inter-tribal marriage much more can be
involved!

rather than focussing on stereotypes
let's look at those who've been able to
cross this stereotypical bridge of my-tribe-is-
better-than-yours...

they should be our model...
it's too late for me now [i've always longed
to get married to a lady outside my tribe...
but i didn't get that wish come true.
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« Reply #12 on: April 25, 2008, 10:41:00 AM »

i don't think i can marry anyone dat is not from my State not to talk of other eastern states...
b/cos of my people's culture.
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« Reply #13 on: April 25, 2008, 11:30:00 AM »

i don't think i can marry anyone dat is not from my State not to talk of other eastern states...
b/cos of my people's culture.
diva,
seems like u are a typical nigerian,
so u mean you wont marry this oyibo guy that am linking up to u???
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« Reply #14 on: April 25, 2008, 11:56:39 AM »

i don't think i can marry anyone dat is not from my State not to talk of other eastern states...
b/cos of my people's culture.
diva,
seems like u are a typical nigerian,
so u mean you wont marry this oyibo guy that am linking up to u???

is Oyibo guy 'surulere' or 'olorunsogo'  ???
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« Reply #15 on: April 25, 2008, 12:11:12 PM »
lol..........

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i no go marry am!
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« Reply #16 on: April 25, 2008, 12:17:55 PM »

i don't think i can marry anyone dat is not from my State not to talk of other eastern states...
b/cos of my people's culture.
I pray we still know each other in 10 years time, then i can verify your statement.

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« Reply #17 on: April 25, 2008, 12:34:06 PM »
lol..........

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i no go marry am!
diva, u dey fall my hand seriously
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« Reply #18 on: April 25, 2008, 12:46:14 PM »
na waoh! sometimes even the same tribe is a big problem if they are not from the same town
my in-laws assumed since i am from a particular state other than theirs,that "she don tear eye" quoting them,one even said maybe my hubby met me in a club.My question then was what is wrong with somebody being sharp and smart.Club na bad thing?

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« Reply #19 on: April 25, 2008, 12:47:12 PM »
Truth was i was doing them a favour by coming into their family.

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« Reply #20 on: April 25, 2008, 12:57:48 PM »


that's really sharp and smart
sister judy2...

being in the club is nothing
is what you do there that's something!

diva_gal...all the best to your dream oh!

goldenrolly: you haven't answered sister peactee
question o!
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« Reply #21 on: April 25, 2008, 12:59:35 PM »
i feel u judy

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« Reply #22 on: April 25, 2008, 01:01:09 PM »
then i tear eye but now i don tear mouth join

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« Reply #23 on: April 25, 2008, 01:06:45 PM »



goldenrolly...shine your eyes upward!

sister judy2...na you biko!
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« Reply #24 on: April 25, 2008, 03:54:11 PM »
@ beibee

maybe u might need to translate 4 bros golden..... ;D ;D

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